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Godly Parenting - A Testimony from the Past
by John Paton
[The following is excerpted
from the challenging biography of missionary John G. Paton. It was
originally published in 1891 as "John G. Paton: Missionary to the New
Hebrides" and was republished in 2001 by Vision Forum as "Missionary
Patriarch: The True Story of John G. Paton, Evangelist for Jesus Christ
Among the South Sea Cannibals."]
My father had a strong desire to be a Minister of the Gospel; but when he
finally saw that God's will had marked out for him another lot, he
reconciled himself by entering with his own soul into this solemn vow,--that
if God gave him sons, he would consecrate them unreservedly to the Ministry
of Christ, if the Lord saw fit to accept the offering, and open up their
way. It may be enough here to say that he lived to see three of us entering
upon and not unblessed in the Holy Office;--myself, the eldest born; my
brother Walter, several years my junior; and my brother James, the youngest
of eleven, the Benjamin of the flock.
Each of us, from very early days, considered it no penalty, but a great joy,
to go with our father to the church; the four miles were a treat to our
young spirits, the company by the way was a fresh incitement, and
occasionally some of the wonders of city-life rewarded our eager eyes. A few
other pious men and women, of the best Evangelical type, went from the same
parish to one or other favourite Minister at Dumfries,--the Parish Church
during all those years being rather miserably served; and when these
God-fearing peasants "foregathered" in the way to or from the House of God,
we youngsters had sometimes rare glimpses of what Christian talk may be and
ought to be. They went to the church, full of beautiful expectancy of
spirit--their souls were on the outlook for God; they returned from the
church, ready and even anxious to exchange ideas as to what they had heard
and received of the things of life. I have to bear my testimony that
religion was presented to us with a great deal of intellectual freshness,
and that it did not repel us, but kindled our spiritual interest. The talks
which we heard were, however, genuine; not the make-believe of religious
conversation, but the sincere outcome of their own personalities. That,
perhaps, makes all the difference betwixt talk that attracts and talk that
drives away.
We had, too, special Bible Readings on the Lord's Day evening,--mother and
children and visitors reading in turns, with fresh and interesting question,
answer, and exposition, all tending to impress us with the infinite grace of
a God of love and mercy in the great gift of His dear Son Jesus, our Saviour.
The Shorter Catechism was gone through regularly, each answering the
question asked, till the whole had been explained, and its foundation in
Scripture shown by the proof-texts adduced. It has been an amazing thing to
me, occasionally to meet with men who blamed this "catechizing" for giving
them a distaste to religion; every one in all our circle thinks and feels
exactly the opposite. It laid the solid rock-foundations of our religious
life. After-years have given to these questions and their answers a deeper
or a modified meaning, but none of us have ever once even dreamed of wishing
that we had been otherwise trained. Of course, if the parents are not
devout, sincere, and affectionate,--if the whole affair on both sides is
taskwork, or worse, hypocritical and false,--results must be very different
indeed!
Oh, I can remember those happy Sabbath evenings; no blinds down, and
shutters up, to keep out the sun from us, as some scandalously affirm; but a
holy, happy, entirely human day, for a Christian father, mother, and
children to spend. How my father would parade across and across our
flag-floor, telling over the substance of the day's sermons to our dear
mother, who, because of the great distance and because of her many living
"encumbrances," got very seldom indeed to the church, but gladly embraced
every chance, when there was prospect or promise of a "lift" either way from
some friendly gig! How he would entice us to help him to recall some idea or
other, praising us when we got the length of "taking notes" and reading them
over on our return; how he would turn the talk ever so naturally to some
Bible story or some Martyr reminiscence, or some happy allusion to the
"Pilgrim's Progress"! And then it was quite a contest, which of us would get
to read aloud, while all the rest listened, and father added here and there
a happy thought, or illustration, or anecdote.
Others must write and say what they will, and as they feel; but so must I.
There were eleven of us brought up in a home like that; and never one of the
eleven, boy or girl, man or woman, has been heard, or ever will be heard,
saying that Sabbath was dull or wearisome for us, or suggesting that we have
heard of or seen any way more likely than that for making the Day of the
Lord bright and blessed alike for parents and for children. But God help the
homes where these things are done by force and not by love!
The very discipline through which our father passed us was a kind of
religion in itself. If anything really serious required to be punished, he
retired first to his "closet" for prayer, and we boys got to understand that
he was laying the whole matter before God; and that was the severest part of
the punishment for me to bear! I could have defied any amount of mere
penalty, but this spoke to my conscience as a message from God. We loved him
all the more, when we saw how much it cost him to punish us; and, in truth,
he had never very much of that kind of work to do upon any one of all the
eleven--we were ruled by love far more than by fear. |